Thursday, October 2, 2008

Nagging arouses defenses

Being accepted as we are is a basic human need, and we search until we find it. Unacceptance wounds the pride, hurts self esteem, and arouses resentment. One’s first line of defense may be a verbal counterattack, or it might come through being stingly, stubborn, lazy, uncooperative, unloving, silent, withdrawn, or through other acts of hostility. The more the other person nags, complains or criticizes, the more one’s resentment may increase. Indeed, an unccepted person may even begin to spend time away from home in search of someone who does accept him and loves him just as he is. A resentful person often secretly vows to get even somehow.


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